by SelfHelpCafe | May 23, 2021 | Relationship Help
Feeling betrayed by a close friend can leave you hurt, angry or unsure what to believe. A shared confidence made public, a broken promise and a friendship that has become less available are different situations. Start with what happened and what you need now, without...
by SelfHelpCafe | Apr 30, 2021 | Self-Help
A painful thought can feel convincing: “I ruin everything,” “Nobody wants me around” or “I should be coping better.” You may notice words, images, memories or a sense of dread. However it shows up, distress is not a failure of character or proof that you are choosing...
by SelfHelpCafe | Apr 8, 2021 | Positivity
A break from stress can be a small pause in a demanding day: sitting somewhere quieter, stepping away from an argument or letting a nonurgent message wait. You do not need to earn that pause by finishing everything first. You also do not have to feel calm immediately...
by SelfHelpCafe | Mar 13, 2021 | Self-Help
You might want more enjoyment in your days without knowing where to begin. Perhaps life has become mostly tasks, or something you once enjoyed no longer fits. It can help to ask what is missing before setting yourself another goal. Happiness can include a pleasant...
by SelfHelpCafe | Mar 7, 2021 | Positivity
Motivation can help you begin, but it does not stay at the same level every day. You can care about a goal and still feel tired, uncertain or reluctant to start. A useful response begins with the task and the conditions around it, rather than a judgement about your...
by SelfHelpCafe | Feb 26, 2021 | Self-Help
Reclaiming your life can begin with an ordinary change: a little more choice in your week, fewer demands competing for your attention or a space you can use comfortably. You do not have to make a dramatic move or feel motivated before taking a small step. Start with...
by SelfHelpCafe | Feb 11, 2021 | Self-Help
A growth mindset is an approach to learning that leaves room for skills and understanding to develop. At work, that can mean asking a useful question, trying a different method or reviewing a draft with someone who can help. It does not require confidence in every...
by SelfHelpCafe | Feb 2, 2021 | Self-Help
You may want to make a change and still find yourself putting it off, feeling numb or unsure where to begin. “Stuck” can describe several different experiences. It is a starting description, rather than a diagnosis or proof that you have not tried hard enough. Before...
by SelfHelpCafe | Jan 29, 2021 | Self-Help
Your voice can help you ask for what you need, question an unfair decision or make another person feel heard. Using it thoughtfully involves more than speaking confidently. It also means noticing your influence, the people affected and the limits of what you can...
by SelfHelpCafe | Jan 23, 2021 | Relationship Help
Jealousy can bring up fear of losing a relationship, uncertainty about an agreement or painful memories. Having the feeling does not decide what you should do next. You can take it seriously while remaining responsible for how you treat your partner and yourself....
