Building Your Self-Esteem

Building Your Self-Esteem

At some point in time everyone has some type of self-doubt and low self-esteem.  There are some ways that you can build this self-esteem so that you can increase your happiness and your sense of self-worth.  Remember that you have control in increasing your self-worth and you can do this by changing the way you think and replacing your negative thoughts with encouraging thoughts.

Replace Negative Thoughts

Make sure that you understand why you are saying things that you are saying.  Increase the way that you think from negative to positive and recognize where you are and who you are with that causes you the most negative thoughts.  Try to balance your job and to be around people that speak positively.

Take Notice

Figure out what is going on in your life and take notes.  If you notice that you are falling into negative talk, figure out why and what situation is causing you to do this.  Notice anything that seems like a trend.

Change Your Thinking

Challenge yourself and figure out positive things that you can say to yourself.  Make your brain exercise by taking out the negative and giving yourself a pep-talk.  When you make a mistake, learn to tell yourself this in a positive manner and learn to focus on encouraging yourself.

Inventory

If you don’t really know how much self-esteem you have, take notice on the different qualities that you have.  Make a list.  If you see that you have more negative listed than positive, try to make the list again and this time put more positive things about yourself.  Remember all of the things you are capable of doing and write them down.

Success

People sometimes forget to point out their successes and they will only focus on the times where they are not perfect. When you are complemented, instead of dismissing it, take hold of it and let it increase your self-esteem.  Having good self-esteem does not make you arrogant, it just allows you to hold on to where you are successful in life.

Comparing

There is always going to be someone that you feel is better than you.  You have to stop comparing things in your life with others.  Social media causes many people to feel bad about themselves and can cause you to have a lower self-esteem.  You have to remind yourself that people online only share the good things and that you would not want to live someone else’s life.

Self-Care

Learn to take value in yourself and in your body and health.  Listen to your body and avoid things that irritate your or upset you.  Try to eat healthier and do things that make you happy.  Spend time with people that you love and that love you and build you up.

Conclusion

Thinking positively does not happen overnight, especially if you have a habit of being negative.  Take time and increase your sense of self by speaking more positively, by being around people that build you up and by noting your good qualities.  Always feel proud about how far you have come in life and embrace that.

17 Comments

  1. This article presents some valid points about self-esteem. Understanding the influence of negative thoughts is crucial. However, I would suggest incorporating examples of how these strategies have worked for others to enhance its effectiveness.

  2. ‘Success comes from acknowledging your achievements.’ That’s such an important reminder! We often overlook our wins because we focus on what we haven’t done yet—let’s celebrate even the small victories!

  3. This post does a great job highlighting self-care as a vital aspect of boosting self-esteem. The reminder to focus on personal well-being resonates deeply with me and serves as a great call-to-action for anyone feeling low.

  4. I absolutely loved this article! It’s so refreshing to read something that emphasizes self-care and positivity. Building self-esteem is essential for happiness, and these tips are practical and easy to implement. Thank you for sharing!

  5. ‘Stop comparing yourself to others.’ Great advice! But then how do I decide who’s winning at life when scrolling through Instagram? Asking for a friend who definitely isn’t me!

  6. Honestly, this sounds like another self-help cliché that offers little substance. Changing thoughts doesn’t magically fix deeper emotional issues; it often requires professional help! Let’s not downplay mental health challenges.

    • I think you’re overlooking how important mindset shifts can be, Steve! Sure, professional help is vital for many, but these strategies provide a great starting point for those who may not know where to begin.

    • ‘Just think positive!’ Wow, how profound! Next thing we’ll hear is ‘Just breathe’ as a solution to anxiety. Sometimes it’s like people forget that life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows.

  7. ‘Don’t compare yourself to others.’ Yeah right! So what am I supposed to do during my daily scroll through social media? Count my potato chip collection? Because that’s all I’ve got going on!

  8. ‘Take inventory of your qualities’? Sounds great in theory, but in reality, listing out positives while juggling life’s stressors seems like an exercise in futility. Let’s be real here.

  9. “Change Your Thinking” is a crucial point! Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) teaches similar concepts about reframing negative thoughts. It’s important to understand the psychology behind these techniques for them to be effective.

  10. I absolutely loved this article! It’s so empowering to see practical steps on how to improve self-esteem. The emphasis on positive thinking is just what I needed. Thank you for sharing such valuable advice!

  11. “Just write down your positive qualities”? That sounds so easy! If only it worked like that in real life. I’d like to see someone try it when they feel truly low; it’s not as simple as they make it sound!

  12. While I get the intention behind this post, it feels overly simplistic. Self-esteem issues can be deeply rooted and not just solved by changing your thoughts or writing lists. It’s more complex than that!

  13. Really? Positive thinking can fix everything? This article seems overly simplistic. Life is complex, and just saying nice things to yourself won’t solve deep-rooted issues. We need real solutions, not just platitudes.

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